How providing companionship creates meaningful connections both ways
This year, as we celebrate the International Year of the Volunteer, we’re shining a spotlight on the people who give their time, energy and care to make a difference in their communities.
"I just love to see them happy. Every visit, I try to bring a little joy..." For aged-care volunteer John Bende, the benefits flow both ways.
When he discovered an Aged Care Volunteer Visitor role on SEEK Volunteer, John knew it would be another great way to give back to his local community – alongside his existing volunteering role at Meals on Wheels. While he already knew how rewarding volunteering could be, he didn’t expect to make such good friendships with the people he’d be visiting, and the enhanced sense of purpose this second volunteering role would bring him.
Through this latest volunteer role, John spends his time visiting elderly residents in aged care homes with Mecawacare, bringing companionship – and more than a touch of joy – to the residents’ lives.
Why did he start volunteering?
Volunteering has always been in his blood. It started years ago when he helped deliver Meals on Wheels to seniors who couldn't cook or shop for themselves. He quickly learned that the small gestures – chatting, listening to someone’s story, and simply being present – can make a significant difference. Eager to do more, he found Mecwacare through SEEK.
Spending time with those who lack support and connection was a meaningful contribution he wanted to make to his community. One of his earliest visits was with a lady who received very few visitors. Just spending time with her, listening, sharing snacks and laughing together seemed to make a huge impact.
What volunteering work does he do?
John currently visits two elderly residents in an aged care facility. Each visit typically lasts two to three hours, but in many cases the conversation flows so effortlessly that it feels like only a few minutes have passed. His role is to provide companionship. Visits entail sitting together, discussing life, sharing old stories, and sometimes enjoying a small treat, like sweets or chocolate, which always brings a smile to the faces of his residents.
He doesn't have to do any specific activities on his visits. It's just about being present, whether their chats are more serious and thoughtful or more lighthearted and fun. One of the people he visits loves all kinds of dance and music, and often shares amusing stories from his younger days when they play familiar old songs.
Another resident enjoys telling John stories of his adventurous life before the nursing home, including the challenges he faced and – even some cheekier tales. To John, listening to these stories feels like a privilege.
What does he enjoy the most about volunteering?
He loves the genuine connections and friendships he makes. It’s the people who make it special for him. He feels a sense of joy when he arrives and gets to hear their stories, knowing that his visits contribute to their happiness. The relationships he’s built during his volunteering time have been very rewarding. He also appreciates the stories shared by his friends – their life experiences and past challenges offer interesting perspectives.
What is one story that has stayed with him?
One particularly memorable story comes from a visit with someone who hadn't had visitors in several weeks. John had gone on a holiday to the Gold Coast, and during those weeks, this resident didn't have anyone to visit them. During John’s first visit back, the resident’s joy was palpable. Their eyes lit up, and they clasped their hands, excited to see him again. They spent the visit catching up on the last few weeks, and John shared his own stories, including a few pictures of his holiday. It touched his heart to hear that, while he was away, this resident had reached out to ask if he was going to visit again.
What has he gained from volunteering?
John says the friendships he has gained from volunteering are what truly make it worthwhile. The connections he has formed with those he visits mean everything to him. One gentleman told him that he was the best friend he ever had, and hearing that felt incredible. John loves being able to bring joy to others and brighten their day. In return, he receives friendship and the satisfaction of knowing that his efforts are making a real difference.
Does he have any advice for those considering volunteering?
John believes volunteering is the best thing you can do. He encourages others to give some of their own time, whether it's for aged care, Meals on Wheels or anything else, saying that you’ll feel better for it yourself.